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How Many Muslim Women Are Marrying Non-muslim Men?

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Very, very few, I suspect, taking into account that THIS IS NOT ALLOWED! However, Muslim men may marry non-Muslim women, provided it is ensured that their children will grow up in an Islamic environment.
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Well, just to ensure, we must marry from amongst our brothers or sisters, to protect our and our children's faith.
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Only a  few Muslim women 'choose' to marry outside Islam. The question whether Muslim women 'can' or 'cannot' marry outside Islam is a contentious one amongst religious scholars. The fact is that ****Quran is silent over the issue****. Allah categorically allows men to marry from amongst the 'people of the book' (Jews, Christians) but does not mention anything about women. However, the male-led and centric Islamic exegesis of the 7th century took it as an opportunity to literally invalidate marriage between Muslim women and men outside Islam. The reasons that they have provided as a defense are seated in patriarchal considerations/fears. For example, a woman is afterall a woman and can be beaten up into submission. What if a Christian man forcibly restricts his wife from observing Islam? - is what worries the ulema.  In this case, a Muslim woman would not only become vulnerable of losing her faith - but will also fail to transfer her knowledge to her children. The fact of the matter is that if its a case of genuine love and respect between spouses - I don't think so that modern Muslim women of today can be suppressed in this manner. This was the religious reasoning. However now I would move on to a more personal reason that most Muslim women from  amongst the diaspora in Europe mention. Almost all Muslim men are circumcised and Muslim women grow up in a culture where its implicitly understood that sex is acceptable only and only with a circumcised man.  Male circumcision  is associated with 'purity' in Muslim cultures ( I won't open a whole chapter on circumcision here...as its a topic in itself,including FGM) Most Muslim women hesitate considering non-Muslim men because they assume that those men might not be circumcised and therefore not 'pure/clean' enough. Sounds uncomfortably racist -but this is their culture and they don't mean any offense. Therefore, they simply avoid non-Muslim men.
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A muslim woman and I, an atheist, are considering a relationship together. We have come to respect each others liberal and progressive stances on philosophy and religion, and so we've become convinced that it would work. This is the U.S. After all, so I'm sure it will work. It may not be happening much, but it's happening.
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Stefan Detrez answered
I don't have statistics, but, of course, they do, and asking such questions in 2010 is as silly as a Walmart shopping father expecting his daughter to marry a male Walmart customer. You don't fall in love with a person for their religion, but for the universal values that person carries, their personality, their looks and good sense of humor. If there is a god, I'm sure He won't be having people fall in love with each other (and that goes for same-sex issues too) and then have people on Earth explain that it is a test. Women are smart enough to choose for themselves and the good name of a family should depend on the happiness it experiences and the good deeds it does, not on whether other people approve of that particular relationship. The Muslim dating ethos is one of hypocrisy: Women can't date before marriage, but they are expected to come home with their future husband. I'm dating a Muslim woman and I am a humanist. We're thought to be doing all sort of 'illegal' things (falling in love with a person of another faith is a CRIME!), but as a matter of fact, we're very happy and we do just the same things other people do. A woman is not the possession of a family and families should be happy their daughter found someone to become happy with, not care what other people think. Some, unfortunately, rather have their daughter be unhappy with a co-religionist, than happy with an 'illegal' person. So, yes, it's difficult, but a phallocentric tradition, treating women as impersonal and less-valued, than men. So, if you're dating a Muslim woman, be patient and be there for her. She is in a frantic situation, having to choose between her family and her love, as a both are impossible. That's the thinking error a lot of people make and they don't pursue their personal dreams, because of degrading religious expectations. Love doesn't care about gods, just like gods don't care too much about genuine human happiness.
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Not as few as you would think. They just don't tell everyone that their husbands are non-muslims to avoid the drama

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