I Am Muslim And Wear The Hijab. But Sometimes I Want To Do Western Things Like Going Out And Showing My Hair; But I Think If I Did It I Would Feel Horrendous Because I Really Believe In Islam. Please Help?

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Anonymous answered
Hi I'm not muslin  but one thing  I see in muslin woman  they  are very pretty  with the veil and confident  with themselves  keep wearing you veil because  the most important thing is the it keep you CENTER  with God  I'm a Webster woman and believe me we struggle because even  though  the we know what  to do to be near God  and be happy  we choose to fallow  the media and fell depress  I HOPE THIS HELP YOU GOD BLESS YOU
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Anonymous commented
Nice to see a positive statement from a non muslim, encouraging us to keep on wearing hijab and not offering 'advice' along the lines of 'take it off'. Thank you madam.xxxxx
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Anonymous answered
I'm a 14 year old muslim girl....I go to an islamic school in edmonton.The hijab is very important piece of cloth that a woman needs. It is also stated in Qurans and Hadiths that the hijab help the muslim woman hide their beauty so guys marry her for who she is not because of what she looks like!!!
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carlos Striker
carlos Striker commented
How do you know what you are? You are telling us what you have been told. If you don't see what you need to see you will never know what you saw?
Gillian Smith Profile
Gillian Smith answered
I have known Muslim women who freely show their hair and live a free and happy life combining their religion with a 'normal' western lifestyle.
You can't be doing anything wrong by keeping your inner faith and enjoying life too.
A woman's hair is a lovely thing and too lovely to be hidden.
You sound like a lovely person and it would be a shame if you hid all that personality away instead of sharing it with the world.
There's nothing in Islam that dictates that you should wear the hijab. I think that was made up by men to hide their women and became part of the tradition of some followers of Islam but by no means all. In fact in some Islamic countries the hijab is being banned as women go out into the world and express themselves.
It's difficult for me as a very liberated woman to know how you feel but I admire you and hope you free yourself from your fear that you would be wrong to express yourself in your own way. I'm sure if you decide not to wear the hijab you'll meet lots of new friends and open up a whole new world whilst still being a good Muslim in your heart and you'll be doing nothing harmful and horrendous - quite the opposite you'll be contributing a lot to society and the world.
Good Luck
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wendy othman
wendy othman commented
That's a good answer for someone who doesn't care about Islam. But i do and i know what happens if i go out and drink, don't pray, show my hair. I cant just do whatever i want and expect to go to a great place in heaven when i die. It's like anything in this life, you don't get something for nothing. This life maybe for me 70 to 80 years god willing. But the afterlife is forever.
Gillian Smith
Gillian Smith commented
Thank you for your comment. I hope that you manage to get a balance of what you feel comfortable with. I know it's difficult to comment on other peoples beliefs.
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Kyoko Sakata answered
This is how I see it. Every single person was born into the world naked and most of us with hair. God never intended for us to be covered up but because of sin His glory left us and we realized we were naked.

Muslim women are free to show their faith and belief in Allah as they please. However, God created me and and knew that I would have to interact with people. We are all social beings. My covering is the authority in my life be that my husband or my father. God gave me my beauty as a gift. I am made in His image. I will cover my intimate parts but I will not cover my hair or face to keep men from sinning against God. THEY are the ones that must control themselves. I have never felt convicted about going outside with no hat or covering on my head. God has made me free from old traditions.

So dear poster, you have to decide what is convicting you. Your religion--what man has said you should do or do you believe Allah will hate you and send you to hell because you simply did not cover your head when in public. I know this is very "in your face" however ask yourself. Is it fear of man says or is it honoring Allah? You decide.
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Will Martin answered
I am not a Muslim so you might not think that I can tell you much about this, but I can tell you that I have often worked with Muslim women from different countries - some Muslim, others not - and many of them had never worn the hijab or any other form of head covering in their lives; because it was not the custom where they lived, and they simply didn't think it was central to Islam.

As far as I have been able to discover, the Quran doesn't command women to wear the veil but only recommends it in certain cases. It is also true that the covering of women's heads is not just an Islamic practice but has been carried out in many countries throughout history. For example, when I lived in Orthodox Christian Greece in the 1980s, many rural woman still never went out without their headscarves; and I'm pretty sure such dress codes existed long before either either Christianity or Islam.

You sound like an intelligent, lively and conscientious person who has much to offer any community, religious or secular. I hope you come to a decision which allows you to enjoy harmless freedoms without sacrificing important values. Good luck.
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Anonymous commented
Please, every body, don't talk in the name of islam until you be certain about what you are saying. The hijab on the women is clearly identified in the qur'an and in the hadith and as we know we must follow the both of qur'an and sunnah "hadith" because we have been ordered to obey the both. for example we all know that al-asr prayer is a four rak'as prayer and we must do so and in the same time you will not find a verse in qur'an says al-asr is a four rak'as prayer but the sunnah tells us. So both the qur'an and the sunnah are sources of the islamic law "shari'aa" and we can find clearly in the sunnah when the prophet ordered his wifes and the muslims women clearly to wear hijab
i aint tellin monoh
Yea....just stop interfearing with ISLAM and go back to your own blind lives and leave us MUSLIMS ALONE! I dont see a MUSLIM stepping into a church and yelling at the priest say how dumb u r for thinking JESUS is god's son.......so keep to ur own religion and LEAVE US IN PEACE!
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sadia fiqi answered
If you are a true muslim you would not have those feelings. The shaytan is overpowering your islam. The best thing to do in your situation would pray sunnah and read quran and those feelings would go away.
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Anonymous answered
If you really a believe you would cover all the time not sometime.
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Anonymous answered
I am a convert to islam, I'm british and married a muslim, after 2 years of marriage I turned muslim and for 9 months I prayed 5 times a day everyday , read the Quaran and other islamic books, I did everything the books said to do to be a proper wife, I covered my self, through this half of my family pratically disowned me and I don't have any firends like I use to. Don't get me wrong I was happy but my husband was saying things and then the books stated something different. Right now I just wear hijab, I don't pray or read etc. I'm angry. I feel like I used all my energy for that and it didnt work out for me like I thought it would. I don't know what will happen from here but my advice is take it easy and  do what ver your comfortable with. I'm like you in a way I don't want my hijab but I'm too shy to go out without it now.... Good luck
Stewart Pinkerton Profile
You should do what feels right to you. The oppression of women is not a true part if Islam, it is simply a classic Arab-based way of maintaining power and treating women as mere possessions. The beauty of woman is made by Allah, and should be celebrated by all other of God's creatures, not hidden away for the enjoyment of her 'owner'. To insist on hijab is merely one step away from slavery.
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carlos Striker answered

This is not the place to look for answers. It is something you have to come to terms with yourself and strike a balance. To us no religion is utmost importance.  We do not want our lives to be dictated by any of the half cocked zealots. No person on earth deserves to be killed in the name god or religion. There is no heaven or hell, it is just a figment of zealots imagination to keep you in check to suit their agenda.   God should never dictate terms to your living. You've been given a life live that one first instead of demanding for another in heaven or hell.

Zeus Profile
Zeus answered
I am a muslim too and I love god and pray. But I don't believe something in islam and another religions. You should just pray god and want help from him
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
I'm not a Muslim but I see know a lot of Muslims who don't hide their hair. They dress normally. Not wearing a hijab doesn't mean that you are not a believer of Islam anymore.
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i aint tellin monoh
Um..actullay it does. In the qur'aan it says it and our prophets said so clearly how we should dress and we're supposed to obey ALLAH and our prophets (pbot) and by not obeying we are upsetting our lord. And whoever upsets ALLAH is in for a severe punishment. This life is only for like 70 or 80 year INSHA'ALLAH and the after life is forever. So do whats right before it's too late so u dont have any regrets and pray to ALLAH to be guided to the straight path because one day we will all be united
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Anonymous answered
Why are the women forced to bear the burden of a hijab? Do you REALLY think its because god tells you to do so, or because jealous men wrote in the qu'ran that's what god wanted? The hijab is a symbol of feminist oppression - a just god would demand BOTH genders to wear a hijab. The hijab is a way for jealous men to stop women from progressing, to keep them down. Its unfortunate that in the 21st century there are still women out there that think wearing the hijab is normal. The hijab was never meant for all women to wear, but only the wives of mohammed. Do your research and don't believe something just because someone told you its true !
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Yasser Hussain answered
Wearing a hijab is not at all a compulsion in Islam. Hijab was started as a fashion in the middle east in the medieval ages.
You can show your hair and still have dignity. The holy Koran does not stop you from that.
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Anonymous commented
Dear all,
what are you guys talking about dat hijab is not important in islam 4 women. It is really important for womens in islam to cover their hair so dat no one can see her beauty. In islam a women beauty is only on for her husband and dats it. Howvere, you are allowed to show your face, but without make up so that you are not attractive to other men. Those people who are not aware of what quran says about hijab plz stoping saying wrong. Women who dont wear hijab surely they will go to hell. Why would you show your beauty to stranger men and this life is only for few days so make allah happy and make space in jannah.
Anonymous
Anonymous commented
No that's not true the hijab is women's to cover there hair in the sake of Allah, no its not a fashion statement it's just we won't to please Allah.
i aint tellin monoh
Yes.....read the HOLY QUR'AAN.......and stop making up stuff!

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