Being a dependent nobody.
I've manage to live all my life as a Nobody.
what's worse being dependent on somebody or being a nobody?
Being dependent would be worse. If you can't take control of your own life you're never going to be happy.
But being a nobody? No problem. I've been a nobody all my life and find it's no bar to being happy. If you look across any population you'll find the vast majority of people are nobodies -- including a pretty good percentage of those who have delusions of grandeur.
I may know a lot about the former.
Dear Thrice Gotcha,
You have asked a remarkable question...and I am going for it all out... because, when all is said and done, what if 'nobody-ness' turned out to be something a person wanted to aspire to?
So: Instead of I am a man/woman/child; or, I am a sister/wife/husband/father; I am a chef/plumber/clerk/politician/etc.;
instead of all that, what if someone just centered themselves on I am that I am...? Here we are, in the world of time and space, yes fulfilling a role (and paying the rent, too) but basically deep in one's heart just BE....
There is even a verse...the Sufi poet, said to be the most beloved poet in the USA...Rumi...
"Try to be a garden where nothing is growing..."
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Similar with dependency, but that is like the butterfly wings, flutter and cause a star storm on the other side of the galaxy...interdependence...
Dependent on somebody, it takes away your freedom. I've no problem being a nobody, there is no one to impress or bow down to, and you can do your own thing.
both.
