What Does The Bible Say About A Husband Who Hits His Wife?


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Digi Witch Profile
Digi Witch answered
I'm seeing now this question was answered over 3 years ago, but I'm going to answer to provide resources for women who may also be going through the same thing you did go through or you might still be going through. You asked what the BIBLE said about a husband who hits his wife.
I will recommend you to a web site that not only sites scriptures, but tells a bit of her story as being an abused wife and how she found forgiveness, so here are actual scriptures in this article that will answer your question: What does the Bible say about domestic abuse?
Here's another link on the same site that talks about the same thing, also quoting scriptures: What does the Bible say about spousal abuse? Is abuse reason enough for a divorce?
To give you direct scriptures here to look up, this one tells you how a husband and a wife SHOULD treat each other: Ephesians 5:20-33...
"Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ; Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: And he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: But I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife [see] that she reverence [her] husband."
As you can see, a lot of that up there paints an image of a MUTUALLY loving relationship. You can also draw the conclusion with this and many other scriptures in the Bible that if one aspect of a scripture is TRUE, then the exact OPPOSITE  is FALSE. So, if a husband is supposed to cherrish his wife and love his wife as he loves himself, then the opposite of that is FALSE. Just taking the word "cherrish", it means "to hold someone in high regard." Now, let's look at the antonyms that were given for "cherrish": Abhor, condemn, despise, detest, dislike, execrate, hate, scorn. So, we can then draw the conclusion that is God said to cherrish your wife, the opposite is what you should NOT do. Abuse easily falls into the description of abhor, condemn, despise, detest, dislike, execrate, hate, scorn...wouldn't you agree?
If you read the entire chapter 5 of Ephesians, the beginning of it talks about a lot of behavior that is not acceptable to God and more importantly these scriptures and other say that if one is walking in the ways of the Lord, he would not do abusive things to people.
Those two links above have all kinds of scriptures, which I'll include some below, but don't just take the word of the web sites I've listed. Crack that Bible open and read those scriptures for yourself. I like using SEVERAL versions of the Bible so I can see different angles and views of the same scriptures. Sometimes when things are worded a little differently, you get a whole new revelation about something you've read over and over again.
I hope this helps and I hope it answers the real question: What does the BIBLE say about abusive relationships. Opinions are like bellybuttons...everyone has them...and some of them stink! ;)
Bright blessings!
Ephesians 5; I Peter 3:7; 1John 4:20; 2 Corinthians 6:16-17; 1Corinthians 3:16-17
Jennie Lindon-Johnson Profile

I can't remember seeing anything as such, all I know it that the Bible states that, look in EPHESIANS 5: 21 Be in subjection to one another in fear of Christ. 22 Let wives be in subjection to their husbands as to the Lord, 23 because a husband is the head of his wife as the Christ is head of the congregation, he being a savior of this body.

It doesn't say a man should be cruel to his wife, but to honor, care and love, help and share and teach each other. 

Victoria Metcalf Profile
In the bible the book of Genesis God said he too a rib from Adam,
and made a weomen named Eve, God chose the rib to show man and weomen are equals.
And to show that weomen was made for the man, it was not good man should be alone.
And us weomen are to be submissive helpmates, just like men are supposed to be strong spiritual leaders. But it does not mean God says we weomen are inferior.
God told men to treat us weomen as joint inheriters.
God said when man and weomen get married they are to become as one flesh.
We weomen are the other half of men.
God also told men to love thier wives as men love thier own bodies,
noone would abuse themself.
Husband are also not suppost to be bitter to thier wives.
Husband are supposed to love thier wives like Christ loved the church and died for it.
God sacrificed himself on a cross for the church, had nails driven into his hands,
bled and died for the church. Just check out these verses from the bible.
Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,
Eph 5:26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word,
Eph 5:27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.
Eph 5:28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.
Eph 5:29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord [does] the church.
Col 3:19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them.
Mat 19:5 and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh"
Furthermore wives are to be submissive to husbands, but this is just the order of a godly home.
It means things like husbands should get final say in finances, and disciplining children.
There are rules for the husband too, God has rules for men, and rules for weomen in marriage.
It does not mean God is saying weomen should be slaves to cruel men acting like dictators.
And lets not forget the head of weomen may be man,
but the head of man is God. Men will take an account to God for how they treat thier wives.
Don. tony angeleo Profile
The bible says,"he that finds a wife have found a good thin,and have obtained favor from GOD",
another point is this,"GOD made man in his own image and likeness,but when it came to making a woman he took her from his rib",so that shows that the very day you both made love that you both had become one,for him to hit is foolishness on his side,if he saw you as himself,he wont hit you,no body ever intends wrong for himself.
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
I'm not sure if this is addressed specifically, however it does state that a man is to love his wife as Christ loves the church.  Christ would never do anything to hurt his church.  He loves His church.  men are to love their wives.  Hope this helps.
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Doulas4lif what a great word to Mr. Madmacstew.  May the Lord reach his heart before the enemy of man further impart wrong doctrine.
Reganne Day Profile
Reganne Day answered
Well ... The bible does say not to divorse but if he is hitting you thats not safe and I know god would understand you leaving him
Jay Smith Profile
Jay Smith answered
Wives, be subordinate to your husbands, as is proper in the Lord.  (Colossians 3:18 NAB)

If a man is caught in the act of raping a young woman who is not engaged, he must pay fifty pieces of silver to her father.  Then he must marry the young woman because he violated her, and he will never be allowed to divorce her.  - (Deuteronomy 22:28-29 NLT)

Genesis 19:8 Tells of a man named Lot who offers his daughters to a crowd of would be angel rapers.  Later, Lot impregnates his own daughters after God kills his wife for simply looking back at the remains of her city.

Perhaps lets NOT use the bible as a guide for what to do?
ghazal gi Profile
ghazal gi answered
When a man beat his wife or even talks in high voice then, it is very sinful act according to bible. This teaching is not only in bible it is in every religion. Every religion teaches us that give equal rights to your wives. These are the important part of your life. Don't be harsh with them, be polite with them and fulfill there each and every need. Not any religion allows that a man can beat his wife. It's a very shameful act.

That man will see his result in this world and also on the Day of Judgement. If his wife is not able to take revenge from him then GOD will not leave him, he will must feel the same pain and grief, which he has given to his wife.

There are many religions in the society who teaches that be friendly and polite with your wives. But we can see around us, there is so much violation of this teaching.
A man who beet his wife and children, he has not any caliber. He is the cheapest person of this world. There are many men in our society who can't work outside home and when they come back to home, they talk harshly with there wives and beat them.
thanked the writer.
Will Martin
Will Martin commented
In fact the Bible, like every other major religion, explicitly places a wife under her husband's control and gives him authority over her (see St Paul and the Old Testament). The Koran, for example, does sanction the beating of a wife who will not listen to "reason." There is no major religion which gives women equality with men; one reason why we are very lucky to live in a world no longer dominated by religion.
Anonymous commented
Actually im sorry wordy but no where in the bible does it say women can't be equal to men in fact when Jesus is taken to the temple as a babe he is brought to the PROPHETESS "ANNA ...many women held highly regarded postions in the bible ... Which P to the S ...is way different than the KORAN honey...KORAN goes back to the whole ISHMAEL over ISSAC thing which is way off ...you might want to reread before you place your opinion
Stewart Pinkerton Profile
The Bible says that a man may chastise his wife as he pleases, and if she steps too far out of line, he can drag her before the city fathers and have her stoned to death. Of course, you don't see that so-called 'Christians' on here making any comment about *that* part of 'God's Absolute Truth'.

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