How does one "grieve" the Holy Spirit?


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Yo Kass Profile
Yo Kass answered

I believe the phrase is used to describe someone who turns away from God, and chooses to sin (either in thought or by committing sinful deeds).

According to Ephesians 4:30, the list of acts that fall under this category are things like:

  • Living like a pagan
  • Stealing
  • Cursing
  • Being bitter, unforgiving & resentful
  • Indulging in sexual deviance

To be honest though, I have to admit that I don't really understand where the turn of phrase "grieving the Holy Spirit" ties into this concept.

To me, the word aggrieving (which means to "distress" or "injure") might make a little more sense in this context...

I'd be interested to hear if anyone else can shed more light on the matter!

Miranda Innaimo Profile
Miranda Innaimo , disciple of Christ , answered


Hebrews 26 & 27 says:

If we deliberately keep on sinning
after we have received the knowledge of the truth, no sacrifice for sins is left, 27 but only a fearful expectation of judgment and of
raging fire that will consume the enemies of God.

After receiving salvation, to continue in your sins without repentance and change will surely insult the Holy Spirit by not allowing Him to work inside your heart; you have to allow the continual renewing of the mind, that is, thought change, because that leads to a course of different actions, ones that walk the path to salvation, opposed to eternal damnation. 

It’s very difficult to believe in “an invisible man in the sky,” but once you ask the LORD to reveal Himself to you,
life becomes entirely different. The difference is salvation, in all manners, in all matters, from the moment you accept the Lord, till the end of time.


Acts 5:3-5

3 Then Peter said, “Ananias, how is it that Satan has so
filled your heart that you have lied to the Holy Spirit and have kept for
yourself some of the money you received for the land? 4 Didn’t
it belong to you before it was sold? And after it was sold, wasn’t the money at your disposal? What made you think of doing such a thing? You have not lied just to human beings but to God.”5 When Ananias heard this, he
fell down and died. And great fear seized all who heard what had happened.

When the first church was established after the resurrection of Jesus, the disciples sold their goods and
used the money collectively. In this example, the Holy Spirit was so grieved by the lies of one individual that death ensued.

Now I'm not saying that everyone who lies to others- and to GOD- is going to be struck down. What I'm saying is that there is nothing GOD does not know, and when the fruit of your lips is truth, you're surely going to enjoy the nourishment of a fulfilled and happy life; because when you are honest, and striving in truth, then the Holy Spirit can work most efficiently in you, as you and He and in one accord, passionately pursing the Kingdom of Heaven, that is, spreading the Gospel of Truth in His name.

Acts 7:48-53

However, the Most High does not live in houses made by human hands. As the
prophet says:
“‘Heaven is my throne,

and the earth is my footstool.
What kind of house will you build for me?
says the Lord.
Or where will my resting place be?
Has not my hand made all these things?’

“You stiff-necked people! Your hearts and ears are still uncircumcised. You are just like your ancestors: You always resist the Holy Spirit!Was
there ever a prophet your ancestors did not persecute? They even killed those who predicted the coming of the Righteous One. And now you have betrayed and murdered Him—you who have received the law that was given through angels but have not obeyed it.”

You can grieve the Holy Spirit when you disagree with what He sets out to teach you, to change you, to form you into the image of Jesus Christ (for HE is the firstborn among many brethren, of which we will be like Him, a heir and joint-heir to the Throne); by doing as others do and have done for centuries- that is, deny Christ and the Law of the Spirit, which is written on our hearts as a code of living by love- will keep the Holy Spirit from communicating with your heart as effectively as He could.

When you grieve the Holy Spirit, your mind is trapped in a negative, vicious loop of poor choices with poor outcomes. By continually trusting in the Lord of Lords, you are in open communication with Him; His guiding hand will align circumstances in His and your favor; the difficulties in life are realized to be disciplining lessons, making your stronger as a soldier in His victorious army.

AnnNettie Paradise Profile

We could grieve God’s spirit to a degree by allowing ourselves to drift slowly toward conduct condemned in God’s spirit-inspired Word. Thereby if we continually went contrary to the direction of holy spirit, we would be grieving it and God, the Source of that spirit. By us taking a closer look at Ephesians 4:25-32 this will show us how we should conduct ourselves, and it can help us to avoid grieving God’s spirit.

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